He did it

I got a call about 6:30. He passed his PFT. He has met all requirements to become a United States Army Officer! What a good feeling! I gotta get though this week and I can celebrate with my husband.

FRG-Army Family Readiness Group

ArmyFRG is your direct connection to Command information for your unit.

Family Readiness Groups

Definition

An FRG is a battery/company affiliated organization of military members and family members who utilize volunteers to provide social and emotional support, outreach services, and information to families before, during, and between family separations, deployments, extended tours of temporary duty and field training exercises.

Purpose

the main purpose of an FRG, is to educate families on the resources available to them as military families.  This is an on-going education and mentoring  process.

Goals

The goal of all FRGs is to produce families who are sustaining and self-sufficient

An FRG is NOT responsible for:

·         Acting as surrogate parents

·         Acting as social workers

·         Lending money, cars, or other expensive items

·         Supporting a divided "club" atmosphere (i.e. enlisted/officer, single/married spouses/parents etc…)

·         Providing a babysitting service

Duplicating Department of the Army, post, or community activities and resources (i.e. providing food, money, legal advice, etc.)

Structure

The FRG is based on volunteerism.  By military regulations the battery/company commander is ultimately responsible for the establishment and support of the FRG, but the operation and functionality of the group depends on the level of involvement of its volunteers   A volunteer chairperson or leader is officially appointed by the commander to help organize and lead the FRG.

The volunteer FRG leader is responsible for organizing meetings, creating and sending  newsletters, maintaining a phone tree, and/or assisting with activities, events, and fundraisers.

The FRG volunteers are made up of any Soldiers, spouses, or family members associated with the unit who hold key positions within the FRG i.e. Asst. Leader, Sec/Tres, Historian, Committee Members etc…  Some volunteers will be "Key Callers" or "Points of Contact."    The POCs' names appear at the top of a FRG Phone Tree and they are responsible for calling the people listed below their name to relay messages from the commander and/or FRG leader. Although all positions within the FRG structure are voluntary, commanders should recognize them as part of his/her special staff a treated accordingly.

Family Readiness Group Framework

It may be helpful to view Family Readiness in this way.  Starting with families at the center of all family readiness events, there are three main goals of the FRG.  Preparing families for separation from the military member, educating families on the mission and responsibilities of military families, and communicating regularly with all families are all an integral part of maintaining healthy family relationships.  If the FRG is structured so that one or more of these goals is being met with any planned event, both planning and execution of the event will be more successful.

  

PREPARATION

The primary goal of any Family Readiness Group should be to maintain readiness for any type of separation - field exercise, deployment, schools, etc.  Through regularly scheduled FRG meetings, newsletters, phone tree messages, classes, and deployment readiness briefings, all families should be better equipped to deal with the stresses associated with separation.

EDUCATION

Educating families on the military way of life, responsibilities of the military member, and unit mission can help alleviate frustration and confusion when separations occur.  Organizations such as Guard Family Team Building (GFTB), Guard Family Action Plan (GFAP), Operation READY, and Army Family Action Plan (AFAP) programs are great ways to educate families on how to better handle the issues that arise in the military.

COMMUNICATION

Communicating regularly with all military families helps create unit cohesion and can eliminate many problems that arise due to gossip, misinformation, and/or rumors that may circulate within  your unit.

SAMPLE GOALS FOR A BATTERY/COMPANY LEVEL FRG

1. Support single Soldiers
1. Welcome new Soldiers in the monthly newsletter
2. Provide Christmas stockings with goodies
3. Provide Easter goody baskets/bags
4. Recognize birthdays with cupcakes, quarterly; in newsletter, monthly
5. Provide each Soldier with monthly newsletter
2. Support married Soldiers, spouses, and children
1. Welcome new comers
1. Welcome Committee
2. Welcome packets

2. Holiday parties
3. Family events
2. Maintain effective communication with all Soldiers and families

b.      Maintaining and distributing current phone tree rosters

c.       Mailing monthly newsletters to each family

d.      Providing copies of monthly newsletters for Soldiers to read

e.       Utilizing email messages to send information to families

d.      Educate Soldiers and family members on the mission of our unit

a.       a. Newsletters

b FRG meetings, classes/workshops

c.       Soldier formations

d.      FRG activities

e.       Prepare Soldiers and family members for deployment/redeployment

a.       Sponsor briefings throughout any deployment /mobilization process

b.      Provide referral and resource information for pre-deployment, deployment and post deployment periods.

Obviously, these types of goals are better met when all leaders in the unit actively support them.  The commander, MPOC, FRG leader, and volunteers must work together to create an environment where military members  and families feel comfortable and welcome.  Once the environment is set,  families are more likely to attend meetings and events.  This sets the stage for preparing military members and families for separations, educating them on military and unit issues, and maintaining open communication, and that will pave the way for a successful, effective Family Readiness Group.

Adapted in part from information obtained from http://FRG.army.mil, article entitled What is a Family Readiness Group, by Traci Cook.                

What is OPSEC

“OPSEC is a vital element in
protecting the Army’s soldiers and
missions, and I want to stress how
vital a role every member of the team
plays in ensuring that we deny our
adversaries potentially useful
information.
“Whether we are on duty or off
duty, we cannot afford to let our
guard down. Your diligence in OPSEC
is key to ensuring our effectiveness in
operations and our collective safety.
Together, we will succeed.”

Maj. Gen. Keith B. Alexander
Commanding General
U.S. Army Intelligence and Security Command

Operations Security, or OPSEC, is keeping potential adversaries from discovering our critical information. As the name suggests, it protects our operations – planned, in progress, and those completed. Success depends on secrecy and surprise, so the military can accomplish the mission faster and with less risk. Our adversaries want our information, and they don’t concentrate on only soldiers to get it. They will be concentrating on the family member as well. 

Examples Of Critical Information

• Detailed information about the mission of assigned units.

• Details on locations and times of unit deployments.

• Personnel transactions that occur in large numbers (Example: pay information, powers of attorney, wills, deployment information).

• References to trends in unit morale or personnel problems.

• Details concerning security procedures.

Prepping for a Deployment

Ways to Prepare When Your Spouse is Deployed

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If you're suddenly faced with your spouse's deployment, following is some information and encouragement to increase your peace of mind and help you make the best financial decisions possible for you and your family during this difficult time.

* Before Deployment
* Helpful Tips A-Z

• Accounts & Authorization
• Bill-Paying
• Cell Phones
• Credit Cards
• Child Care
• Keeping in Touch
• Legal Assistance and Power of Attorney
• Military ID
• Red Cross Assistance
• Sources of Help Taxes 

Before Deployment
Before your spouse leaves, there are several decisions you should make together, as well as some information that you should be sure to compile jointly. Consider buying a notebook to record information and some clearly labeled file folders to keep important papers. Gather the following information with your spouse if possible:

•  Account numbers and contact information (billing addresses, phone numbers and customer representative names) for credit cards, mortgage loan or rent, bank accounts, loans (i.e. car or student), and safety deposit box
•  Investment statements (i.e. stocks, bonds, mutual funds, or other investments)
•  ATM pin numbers and passwords for accounts
•  Policy numbers and contact information for insurance policies such as health, life, auto, disability, homeowners or renters' insurance
•  Contact information for any professional help your family uses and or may need access to including lawyers, doctors, financial advisers or investment professionals, mechanics, repairmen
•  Maintenance records for cars, major appliances, etc.

Also record your spouse's military information, including:

•  Name of his/her unit
•  Names and ranks of his/her chain of command
•  A copy of his/her orders and travel itinerary

Following is a list of documents that you should try to locate and keep in a safe, central location:

• Your military I.D.
• Your spouse's birth certificate
•  Your marriage certificate
•  Your spouse's social security number
•  Power of attorney document
• Financial statements including checking, savings, CD, brokerage, retirement accounts, and credit card statements
• Copies of both your and your spouse's wills and living wills
• Instructions about guardianship arrangement for your children
• Car title and registration

Helpful Tips A-Z

Accounts & Authorization
Make sure you have any necessary authorization from your spouse to handle things like withdrawing money from jointly-held accounts, resolving billing or paycheck problems, etc. Make sure that your bank, credit card, and other financial accounts are held in both names, listed as "Sally OR John Doe" rather than "Sally AND John Doe." That way if there's a problem with the account you don't need your spouse's signature or authorization to solve it.


Bill-Paying
If you've never handled your family's finances, sit down with your spouse and discuss how he/she has done the bills up to this point. Begin by making up a list of your regular, monthly bills such as your mortgage/rent, utilities (i.e. electric, gas, water, phone), car payment, student loan, and credit card bills. For a list of other typical expenses and an interactive budget worksheet, click here for english, or click here for spanish.

Once you have a list, make sure that you've located your checkbook and have adequate checks (or know how to pay your bills online). Make sure that you know when your bills are due. Since you know you'll be under stress and have more to do managing what your spouse did or what two of you previously did together, don't try to rely on your memory. Write down the "due date" of your recurring monthly bills on your calendar and highlight to make sure you send your payments in on time.

If possible, you may want to set up automatic withdrawal from your checking or savings account for any recurring monthly expenses (i.e. mortgage, car loan). You can stop in at your local bank branch to set up automatic withdrawal. While you're there, you can meet with a bank representative to ask questions you may have about using checks, withdrawing or depositing money in your account; and loan or credit options. That will help ease your stress, save you time, and ensure that your payment isn't late.


Cell Phones
Depending on your contract, canceling cell phone service can be costly. Some companies will allow you to "freeze" your account while your spouse is deployed and pay just a minimum monthly payment to maintain your account. Check with your wireless provider to see what help, if any, they can offer.


Credit Cards
If you haven't been responsible for managing your family's finances it can be easy to misuse credit cards while your spouse is deployed. Before your spouse is deployed, ask what cards he/she used and for what type of expenses.

It's important to keep current on your bills, meaning that you send your payment in on time. If you're having difficulty paying your bills, contact your credit card company. At the very least you want them to know that you want to keep current on your bill, but you're having difficulty. They'll note that on your account and may offer ways to help you such as extending your payment date. Some companies will lower or waive the interest rate on your card if your spouse has been called up to active duty.

Try to keep a close eye on how much you're charging, and if you're charging things that you used to pay with cash. Using credit inappropriately can add up quickly and put you under a real financial strain. For tips on keeping your credit habits under control, click here.
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Child Care
The Department of Defense now requires families with two parents being called into active duty, and families headed by a single parent called to active duty, to have a family-care plan. The plan should outline specific directions on who is to care for the children, how children will be transported to their designated caregiver, and what financial arrangements are in place to provide for the children while their parent or parents are gone. In addition to regular expenses such as food, clothing, tuition or daycare fees, you'll also want to make sure to put aside money for any emergency medical needs and for transportation such as plane or train tickets in the event that you need to send your children to stay with designated friends or relatives while you or your spouse is deployed. If you or your spouse is in the National Guard or is a reservist, see "If Your Spouse is in the Reserves or the Guard" for more information on military benefits regarding child care. Stop by your base's family center if you need help in preparing a family-care plan.
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Keeping In Touch
It can be logistically difficult and costly to keep in touch with your spouse while they're stationed overseas. Ask your family care center if you'll be able to send packages or mail and if so, how much will it cost? Will your spouse have access to email? Do you know his/her email address? If you want to talk by phone you have three options:
o Using your current long-distance service,
o Using a calling card, or
o Using a pre-paid calling card

Using your phone-based long distance service can be costly. Call your long-distance provider (listed on your phone bill) and ask if they provide military discounts for regular long-distance and overseas calls. Some long-distance providers are offering reduced rate calling cards. Calling cards enable you, or your spouse, to make calls from any location using a calling card number and PIN (personal identification number).

Prepaid calling cards allow you to pay upfront a certain sum of money for a specific amount of calling time. For example, you can pay $25 for 500 minutes of calling. You can obtain a pre-paid calling card at local drug stores, warehouse stores, or online. Check on the card to make sure you or your spouse can make international calls with the card.

You should also check with your base's family center to see if you can obtain a free "Operation Uplink" calling card courtesy of the Veterans of Foreign Wars (www.operationuplink.org) or other similar organizations that donate cards free of charge to service members.


Legal Assistance and Power of Attorney
GO GET a power of attorney document. A power of attorney document gives you, or somebody else that you designate, the legal authority to act on you or your loved one's behalf for financial, health-related, or other business matters. The legal assistance office on base should be able to help you with this decision.



Red Cross Assistance
The Red Cross provides assistance to all sectors of the military and their families, whether they are active, inactive, retired, in the reserves, serving in their local community or deployed. The Red Cross provides communication links, financial assistance and counseling. You can get more information on Red Cross assistance through your local chapter (listed in the phone book or by accessing their website at www.redcross.org) or by contacting your on-base Red Cross station or field workers.


Sources of Help
The military offers several sources of help for service member dependents during active duty including:
o Pre-deployment briefings. If you can't attend a briefing, contact your local family center for more information - they offer information and services by experts on a wide variety of topics to help you prepare.
o Employee benefits book.
o Financial counseling personnel. Most bases or posts have financial professionals on staff that can provide you with information about financial options and programs created specifically for military families.
o Your on-base community. Even if you're living off base, military spouses bond closely and can provide invaluable services and support.
o Your base's family readiness coordinator.



Taxes
If you've never done your family's taxes before, you may want to get professional help. You may be eligible for a tax extension, or exclusion, depending on your spouse's orders. Check out the IRS' website for information on military exemptions and for online help in preparing your taxes. You may also want to consider using a tax preparation firm such as H&R Block or Jackson-Hewitt, or a smaller, local tax preparer. You can find a listing of local firms in phone book. Make sure you ask upfront how much they charge for their services.

While Your Spouse is Gone
Trying to maintain stability at home and work while your spouse is deployed is difficult. While your spouse is gone, you can avoid unnecessary stress by:



Sticking to a budget and keeping an eye on credit. When a spouse is deployed, you're now suddenly faced with trying to cope with things on your own. There used to be two of you and in some cases, there was more money, or at least fewer expenses, prior to your spouse being mobilized. Of course you'll encounter unexpected expenses while your spouse is gone, but keeping to a budget can help provide you with structure and help you resist emotional overspending, which will create greater stress over time. For more information on budgeting and an interactive, online budget worksheet, click here for english, or click here for spanish.

While you're managing the family's finances on your own, be careful about using your credit cards for items that you don't usually charge or writing a lot of checks without keeping track of how much money you're spending. Making sure that you record the checks you're writing, balancing your checkbook, and reviewing your credit card bill will help you keep track of how you're doing financially.

Although most families will be facing additional expenses and/or reduced pay, some service member's families will find that they have additional income. Think twice before spending it. Why not use it to pay off some debt or deposit it into your savings account? Depending on how much money you'll receive, you could consider opening a money market fund or depositing money in a Certificate of Deposit ("CD") with your local bank.


Staying connected to community. Seek out people in your same situation. These friendships can help ease the stress and provide you with help you might need, especially if this is the first time that your spouse has been deployed.


Seeking professional help. If you're having trouble financially, legally or emotionally there are resources you and your family can take advantage of. Contact your base's legal assistance office or family readiness office for help. Following is a list of additional websites that may provide you with help.


Courtesy of Tomorrow's Money

Week 12: Graduation....YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Week 12: Graduation
Candidates take the oath of office and complete final preparation for graduation.

Key Tasks: Commissioning Oath, Graduation

Week 11: Officership

This week provides candidates with the opportunity to explore leadership topics
with senior officers who have experienced the same or similar situations. Topics
include counseling, reception and integration, career advice, NCO-Officer
relationship, and other subjects chosen by candidates.

Key Tasks: Final APFT, Company 5 Mile Run,

Week 10: Recovery, History 2

This week candidates will learn to recover a unit from deployment. They will also
gain an understanding of the causes, strategies, events, and results of major
combat and peacekeeping operations from WWI up to the present.

Key Tasks: Graduation Run, Battalion Commander Social

Week 10

This week may be a little stressful to some. There is a history test tomorrow. Its about 40 questions. They come this far, The Lord knows they don't want to mess up now. I haven't talk to Michael much because he was been doing a lot of studying. I been saying my prayers.


Next week is the final P. F. T., Then they will be processing to move to the next step. There are a few soldiers that have to snowbird for a few months before they can go to BOLC B. I hope that Michael's orders doesn't change. I am pretty happy that he is leaving right away so he can hurry back home. I am just curious to which Unit/Company he's going to. I am saying another prayer that he will not have to deploy soon as he gets home. I am not looking forward to two years of him being gone. But hey its what we signed up for.


I heard rumors that the guys are able to move out the barracks week after next. I am hoping so. It would be nice to have him with us at the hotel. The kids will be thrilled.


We are being kicked out of this housing area. Well not really, they are demo'ing these units and moving people to other homes. I had to get Michael to fax his orders to housing so we could get on the field grade wait list. I heard that we should be moving before the Christmas holiday. That would be wonderful! The place we will be moving to is huge. 4 bdrms 2.5 baths Living and dining room combo which includes a family and laundry room. I cant forget a fenced in yard for Shags. I really cant complain. Just not looking forward to packing up to move around the base.


Othan that nothing much new is going on. Will update you soon. I just finished my classes so I have more time to blog and do anything else that I find fun.

First Salute - The "Silver Dollar" Tradition

First Salute - The "Silver Dollar" Tradition

The Army Officer's Guide, considered the standard for information concerning general officer knowledge and the Army's traditions, discusses the tradition as follows:
The “Silver Dollar” Salute. It is a tradition in our Army that newly commissioned second lieutenants present a silver dollar to the first enlisted Soldier who salutes them. The coin symbolically acknowledges the receipt of respect due the new rank and position. [p. 95, "Customs of the Service," Army Officer's Guide, 45th Edition, Lt. Col. Lawrence P. Crocker, U.S. Army (Retired), (Stackpole Books, Harrisburg, 1990).]
No one really knows the origins of the tradition, but the tradition dates back to the 19th century. Some hold that the tradition even comes from the British during the Colonial Period.
The coin dollar of old was either the gold or silver piece of currency at the time. After our coinage changed from silver in the 60's, the coin of choice became the Eisenhower Dollar. Though out of circulation, most new lieutenants prefer the "Ike dollar" because its large size makes it so profoundly and easily identifiable as a "silver dollar."
While non-silver Ike dollars are more readily available, please recognize that a pure traditionalist would select a pure silver dollar ... available at coin shops for about $12 to $15.
Marlow White welcomes you to the traditions of the Army and wishes the best for your new career.

http://www.marlowwhite.com/faq-coin-dollar-first-salute.html

Look into Moving out Seminars...

I'm not sure if all post offer them but call your housing and see. This is very valuable if this is your first experience in military housing. The more informed you are the easier it will be.

Since this question was asked I wanted to share some info on a DITY move.

 Where do I find a weight Station?

The easier place to get your truck weighted is a truck stop. Most truck stops or the bigger moving companies have scales. You can also do a search of weight stations http://www.coopsareopen.com/ . I know we have one here on post.

Is a DITY move easier?

Depending on the move and what you have to move will determine if it's worth the DITY move. If it's a light move, I say go for it because it's easier and you can earn some spending money. I am a personal fan of DITY moves because one I can make money. Two, I know I am more careful with my personal belongings (I have some stories). Even with a large move, I would go for the DITY move. Remember though, I am partial to a DITY move.

Will update soon. I have been a little busy and havent been able to keep up with 2 blogs, school, and family life. I will be posting more probably after next week.

Ready, Set and Go!!!

I have been preparing for this moment for weeks now. I have my formal and shoes together.  Graduation outfit ready to go. I have 4 weeks until I am headed down for a week full of graduation activities. I am so excited. matter of fact I am glowing with pride. 

I will be sending out announcements to announce his successful journey.

Senior Officer Candidate Phase

Today is the day that the OC's become SOC's. They have a ceremony to celebrate reaching the senior phase of their training. They are more than half way through their training. YAY!!! Now, they are saluted by JOC's. Which has to feel great, for all their efforts are being recognized.

For the next 3 weeks, they will be preforming field exercises. Then come back from the field for their final History and PFT. Once that is all done, they will be gifted with family members arriving that Friday-Thursday for the celebration week of their successful completion of their training. 

They all are in my prayers! Hope their weeks fly by successfully!!

BOLC II Cancelled

AKO had reservations that BOLC II was canceled. Dh doesn't report until March. Now, I am curious if he has to snowbird or can he work with his unit here until that time. But hey, I am getting somewhere with all this information.

Edit: I forgot to mention that they have added a few weeks on to BOLC B with the cancellation of BOLC II.

OCS is now BOLC A and their branch training is BOLC B.

Soooo Today is the big day for College Op's

Today is job assignments. I really dont know much about the process since dh is prior service. I believe the more points you have the more likely you will get your top picks. Good luck to all the college op's

Also, The history test was today. This test was big time. People were fearing this test. Well Dh passed. He said the test was a beast.

They are now on a 4 day pass for the holiday then Tuesday headed for the field. I am not sure if they will be in the field all day and night or coming home in the evenign. I just know once these 3 weeks are over, we are over that hump. I cant believe that I have 39 more days until I get to see my dh again. How cool is that!!!!!

Week 6

Week 6: History 1 and Branching
The OCS Candidate will understand the utility of Military History in today’s Army,
and the major events in the military history of the United States from its colonial
settlement through the Civil War.
 
Key Tasks: Prep for Deployment


Activities for the week:

History test
Military Intelligence test
Branching ceremony-Thursday
5 mile release-Monday
7 mile ruck march

Then they are headed to the field for 3 weeks. WOW, I have made it this far. After coming out of the field, we can finally say its almost over. I wish all those OC's best of luck. Please continue to work hard and that light that they speak of you are almost there. For the prior service, Michael and I were speaking that branching is going to be like the NBA draft. I hope the branching ceremony goes well and the way that you want. If not remember that you should be pride of what you have achieved. It is a great honor to service in the United States Army as a Officer in any Branch you may lead.

Many blessings to all of you!!!!

Havent checked in for a while....sorry

dont even know if anyone reads this but here's an update.They are in their 5th week. They have 2 test scheduled. Mike received his first test back and he scored 100%. Hooah. LOL!

Anyway, I think most spouses that I talk to in this class are dealing with their So's becoming stressed. I have been talking to Mike for a few days listening to see how his spirits were holding up. I didn't see anything there so finally I asked him are you depressed or down. Maybe sad. He roared in laughter. He asked me why was I asking him crazy questions. I explain to him that was one of the topics with the spouses and I was concerned. He said that he was actually fine. He said that its all a mental game and seeing if they are going to break them or not. He told me you have to look at it as if you have a job to do and nothing is going to stop you from carrying out that mission. He also stated that finding some buddies that you can bond with is helpful. Being friendly makes it easier. So if you are preparing for this journey know that mental games will break you if you allow it. Some of the prior service people are having issues because they have been in charge for so long they forgot what its like to the low man on the totem pole.

Columbus Day is the first 4 day for the guys and they are thinking that they get a long pass with off post privileges. I will skip this trip. Not that I wouldn't love to see my husband but I think that financially its not a good idea. Graduation is a week long and I want to have all my extra money to spend during that time instead of trying to drive down for 7 hours, pay for hotel and food and haul the family back home. I want to really get a celebration going Grad week. If I spend on Hotel and food next month then I will be taking money out of my Grad budget. I really don't want to do that. We have a huge thing plan which we decided that was best to wait.


TA TA for now!

BOLC II frustrations.

After talking to Michael yesterday my frustration grew about BOLC. I know it shouldnt but it does. I despise hear say. I want facts. I want to prepare for facts. I dont want you to tell me something different every week about the dang school.

Anyway, Michael was talking to a Captain about BOLC II and he said that it was indeed canceled (this changes weekly as well). Which is a good thing because BOLC III will start sooner and they will be finished a lil earlier. Then again they will have to snowbird until BOLC III. So that would mean either use up all of his leave to not snowbird or have him BS'ing doing busy work until its time for BOLC III to start.

DETAILS AND FACTS PEOPLE. I am a organizer. I need to plan. I know I know! Army life isn't about the plan but grrrrrrrr!!!!

A lil update

Mike is really enjoying being the CO. He said it keeps you busy but quite fulfilling. Unfortunately they lost two more soldiers; One because of his knees and the other has asthma. They will be a little busy this week. There will be runs, rucks, and tests. He is down to 145 lbs. WOW! The only thing they do is run must be. He went down there at 163.

This weeks activities

4 Mile agility-Monday
5 ruck march-Tuesday
5 release run-Friday
Paper is due Friday
Everyone in 2 platoon passed the test they took Friday.
First sergeant working on giving Saturday pass back.
Leadership and Military Justice Test Friday


Not much to report. They have been busy with studying. I don't get to talk to him much. It's better than nothing.